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Secrets of Bliss - When Helping Hurts

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When Helping Hurts
by Michael Webb

When Athena and I lived out near Los Angeles we saw quite a few panhandlers. Many of them carried signs that said "Will Work for Food." One undercover newspaper reporter went around the city offering simple jobs to these beggars, like mowing his lawn or washing his car in exchange for money or a meal. 19 out of 20 refused the work. They told the reporter that begging was much easier and they made more money doing so.

All of us who simply drop money in their cups have enabled them to continue to be drug abusers, alcoholics or at least unsightly, unproductive vagrants. Money is not their problem -- in many cases it adds to their problem. They need mental health treatment (many street people have mental illnesses), drug rehabilitation, counseling, healthy food and job training. Of course they need friends too.

Many people like to throw money into the panhandlers cup because it makes you feel good -- or at least it keeps you from feeling guilty. But if you really want to help the problem, donate money to a reputable homeless shelter, drug rehabilitation center or soup kitchen. Don't give beggars what they want -- give them what they need.

I wonder how many people are out on the streets because well-meaning friends and family trained them to be that way. I'm sure most of you know first hand a parent or grandparent who regularly bails out a delinquent child, only making him or her more delinquent and irresponsible each time they "help him out." It's like raising a lion from a young cub but never teaching it to hunt. While you gave it everything it needed to live with you, you have done nothing to prepare it to live without you when you release it into the wild.

It's called "enabling" and I've seen way too many well-meaning people ruin others, themselves and relationships by constantly bailing loved ones out of trouble. It is called enabling because your actions enable (or help) someone to continue his or her destructive lifestyle.

Here are some cases of enabling I have personally witnessed in my family or with friends:

- A father continues to give his unemployed adult son money for food and clothes yet the boy just buys drugs with it or simply never gets a job
- A wife continues to pay all the bills (hers and his) even though her husband never keeps a job more than a few months
- A grandmother buys expensive gifts for and gives money to her granddaughter who dropped out of high school and refuses to get a job
- A wife keeps the refrigerator stocked with beer even though her husband is an alcoholic
- A boyfriend continues to give his pregnant girlfriend money for living expenses but she habitually wastes all of it and cries pitifully for more money
- A father buys a computer for his son's birthday even though he is addicted to online pornography and stays up all night playing computer games and is flunking out of school because of it
- A grandfather keeps bailing his grandson out of jail because every time the grandson says "I've really changed this time."
- A parent takes his children to see violent movies, buys them video games that fill their minds with killing and purchases music for them that encourages them to hate
- A husband caves into his wife's request every time she pitches a fit

While we need to share a lot of love with those we touch, we need to make certain that our actions are actually helping someone to improve instead of giving them the means to stay in their unhealthy lifestyle.

While it is very tempting to give loved ones what they want (it makes us feel good -- or at least less guilty), it often leads to destructive behaviors. Give your loved ones what they need - they will eventually thank you for it.

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Do you have a question or comment? Please reply to tell me anything or let me know a topic you'd like me to cover in the future. I can keep it anonymous if you want. I LOVE hearing from and helping my subscribers - Michael Webb

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Michael Webb is the world’s best known romance expert. He has written over a dozen books on relationships and has appeared on over 500 TV and radio shows. He is founder of the extremely popular www.TheRomantic.com -- and husband to Athena for over 20 years.


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