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Healing from the Affair - a Cheater's Guide

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Healing from the Affair - A Cheater's Guide

Hello, Dr. Huizenga here.


Doug had an affair with a co-worker.
Of course, Linda discovered the affair and was devastated.

Doug and Linda read my ebook, “Break Free From the Affair,” and began rebuilding their marriage.

That was 3 years ago.

What makes their story unique is the fact that Linda and Doug created their own website to tell their story and help others.

I’ve been honored to participate on their site and they remain friends.

Every so often we share what we each are creating.

I just discovered that they have put together a resource for the “cheater,” “Healing from an Affair – a Cheater’s Guide.”

I’m thrilled since I don’t have a specific resource for the cheater and how s/he can effectively be part of rebuilding and recreating the marriage or relationship.

If you are trying to heal and rebuild your relationship, get your hands on “Healing from an Affair – a Cheater’s Guide.”

Linda and Doug talk about the 4 Stages of Healing and then Doug does a great job of pulling no punches and pops 24 tasks in front of the cheater.

Doug gets away with this since he is walking the talk: not perfectly, but hey, that’s part of the process too.

Here’s a sneak preview of his tasks:
• Be sensitive when your partner suffers from a trigger
• Stop being so selfish
• Take responsibility for your actions –and inactions
• Stop trying to always be in control
• Have some patience
• Be trustworthy
• Talk about things
• Be honest
• Show remorse and apologize
• Acknowledge the depth of the pain that your affair brought to your
• Educate yourself about affairs and relationships
• Figure out for yourself why you did what you did
• Be thoughtful and reassuring
• Stop being so defensive
• Be loving and supportive
• Stop thinking that the grass is always greener somewhere else
• Listen –really listen
• Stop blaming your spouse for your affair
• Make your life and everything you do an open book
• Check your anger at the door
• Get some counseling or therapy
• Ask your spouse what he/she needs from you on a regular basis
• Gratitude or gratefulness

He digs into each tip, giving your reasons, stories and supporting info.

Doug says, “You see, most cheaters just don’t ‘get it.’”

Doug didn’t at first.

Eventually, and with Linda’s help, he managed to get a clue and started doing the work that was necessary for Linda to heal herself and for the both of them to heal the marriage.

You can read more about their story by clicking the following link:

Wishing you the best,


Dr. Huizenga
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