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Anandi here...

Can you transform your relationship without your partner even knowing it’s happening?

Have you ever asked, “Why me?” and felt sorry for yourself? 

You’re not alone. Being the victim of someone’s unkind behavior is easy. 
But when you feel like a victim, what do you start thinking about your partner? 

Not nice things, that’s for sure.

“He treats me like dirt.”
“She never appreciates me.” 
“He makes me feel stupid and useless.” 
“I’m always wrong. I can’t ever be right.”

Remember, you don’t have to let your emotions rule you.

You don’t have to poison your perception of your partner because you feel victimized and they are automatically the “bad guy” or “witch.”

Whenever you think these thoughts...

“Things always happen to me” 
“(S)he made me feel something” 
“I didn’t have a choice”
“It’s not my fault” / ”It’s all my fault”

… you are dis-empowering yourself. You are playing the victim.

As you can imagine, being the victim means you feel powerless and helpless. 

Does that make for a solid partnership? Nope.

It leads to resentment and frustration. To get what you need, you might resort to emotional manipulation.

The good news is, you can shift out of the victim mentality and regain your personal power... 

Here’s something simple to try;

Remove the phrase “You made me” from any arguments with your partner. 

Replace “You made me feel ........” with “I feel ....... because you ..........” 

This is a huuuuuuge difference! 

“You made me feel ....” gives the power over your happiness to your partner. This often leads to resentment and emotional manipulation.

“I feel ..... because you did ....” means that you chose your feelings and now you can choose your response, too.

And you can always choose to respond in a positive way!

Next time, I’m going to show you how to put it all together!!

Wishing you every happiness,
Anandi Peters

PS
 Look out for the magical four step formula that takes you from resentment and frustration to long lasting love.
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