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Hi -,
Anandi here...
Are you ready to hear one of the most earth-shaking relationship lessons?
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It’s not about anything you have to “do” or “be.” It’s all about learning to love yourself first!
It might seem counter-intuitive, but you’ve got to put your focus on loving yourself instead of wasting your energy on trying to change your lover to fit some ideal you hold.
If you can love yourself first, you are more open to the beauty of each other’s differences. You are more appreciative of what the other brings to the relationship.
If one of you is ready to quit the relationship, or already has, it’s not because you can’t be together…
And here’s the BIG revelation!...
It’s that one or both of you are unwilling to face aspects of yourselves that you’re too scared to confront.
In short, you are not ready to love yourself, or your partner is not ready to love him/herself.
If you do that, though, if you can courageously love YOU first, wholly and unconditionally, then your relationship will thrive.
Here's an incredibly powerful trick to help you next time you have an argument or your partner says something hurtful.
Find a quiet place and start tapping the side of your left hand [where you would do a karate chop] with the fingers of your right hand. Keep tapping and take three deep breaths. This will immediately calm your nervous system.
Keep tapping the side of your hand and say these words three times "I deeply and completely love and accept myself". Notice if this makes you feel uncomfortable or is difficult to say. If it is...that's perfectly normal!
Use this rapid technique whenever you have conflict with someone and you want to release any negative emotion from your energy system.
Next time, you’ll learn how to take the emotional sting out of something your partner said or did so you can avoid reacting in a way you’ll regret later.
Look out for my next email... I’m sure you’ll love it!
Wishing you love and happiness,
Anandi Peters
PS In a healthy relationship, you are not someone’s “other half”. You are a whole person, a fascinating, passionate, engaged, complete, independent and purposeful YOU!…
... the amazing person you want your lover to stay with.
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