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Watch time: 11 min | Four standards to measure
The only way to change your life long-term is to raise your standards.
I was seventeen years old, sleeping on a pull-out couch in a one-room apartment.
I was the janitor at the building where I worked. I cleaned toilets. The sink was too small for washing dishes so I had to use the bathtub.
I remember standing in that bathroom one night, the water cold, my back aching, and thinking: is this it?
And then something happened that I didn't expect.
I got angry.
Not at the world. Not at anyone else. At myself. At the version of me that had decided this was acceptable.
That anger was the most important gift I ever received.
Because it told me something had to change. Not my circumstances. Not my luck. My standards.
Standing in that bathtub, I decided that the life I was living was no longer who I was going to be.
Not who I hoped to be someday.
Who I was. Starting now.
That's not motivation. That's a standard. A threshold.
And here's what most people don't understand about standards.
They confuse them with goals.
Goals are what you hope to achieve. Standards are what you refuse to accept. And the gap between those two things, that gap right there, is where most people disappear.
I've sat with people who had it all—money, success, fame in some instances—and watched them shrink instead of grow.
And I've sat across from people with nothing—no money, no support, no obvious path forward—who somehow found a way to rise.
The difference was never talent. Never resources. Never timing.
It was always standards.
The ones who rose had decided at some point, in a moment that probably looked unremarkable from the outside, that a certain level of life was no longer acceptable.
They stopped negotiating with themselves.
Most people tolerate too much. They accept less than they're capable of in their relationships, their health, their work, and their finances. They call it being realistic.
I've spent nearly fifty years watching how “being realistic” becomes the most common path to mediocrity.
When I wrote Awaken the Giant Within, this was the part I wrestled with most. Because I knew it would make people uncomfortable. Not because it's harsh. Because it's true.
The giant within you doesn't wake up because conditions improve.
It wakes up because your standards do.
And once you raise your standards, once you draw that line, something shifts that nobody can take from you.
You stop making exceptions.
You stop waiting to feel ready.
You stop living like the goal is somewhere out there in the future and start living like the standard is who you are right now.
So let me ask you, and I want you to actually sit with this, not just read past it:
What have you been tolerating that doesn’t align with your values?
What standards are you ready to set that you've been too afraid, or too comfortable, to commit to?
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