On this week’s podcast, the person who had contacted me for the session walked away disappointed. She wanted a resolution and I couldn’t give it to her, because I could only give her the answer I saw unfolding in the relationship, the one she saw too—the one she didn’t want.
Forty years ago, I might have kept looking for the unturned stone that would deliver them from a loop of frustration and disappointment, even when I knew there was none. Twenty years ago, when I wrote Mating In Captivity, I still considered disappointing sessions a professional failure: Jed and Coral, a couple from Mating whose sexual incompatibility I could not resolve, stayed with me as one such case. However, as you can read in the new preface to the book, it turns out that what I interpreted as failure, Jed and Coral experienced as a springboard for the relationship they have today. ...
