Your Year, Your Flower

A few weeks ago it was my first wedding anniversary, and wow, did I get it right this time. What's that about a first pancake? I'm one of those people who needed a very burnt first pancake to get to the absolutely perfectly golden brown second one.

That morning my husband had to drop me off at the airport to fly home. So rather than waking up in an exotic location with rose petals, room service, and whatever else people who are much better at anniversary planning than we are apparently do, we woke up at a hotel and drank coffee together before heading to the airport.

At some point we looked at our coffee cups and realized that paper is the traditional first-anniversary gift. So technically, we nailed it. Two lovely paper coffee cups. Happy anniversary to us!

But the funny thing is, I actually feel like I got exactly what I wanted for my first anniversary. It just wasn't wrapped. My husband has spent an absolutely ridiculous number of hours working with me at Farmquarters lately. Excavating, irrigating, weed-clothing (that one definitely deserves to be a verb!), planting, building, hauling, schlepping, scheming, etc. He's done it all.

Acts of service are a very big deal to me, and there are few things that say I love you more clearly in my particular language than someone picking up a shovel and helping me make a place I love even more beautiful.

Which got me wondering: if paper is the traditional gift for the first anniversary, is there a traditional first-anniversary flower, too? Because, as the owner of a flower company, I'm embarrassed to say it took me more than 15 years to think about that.

And I found that of course there is. Apparently marriage has a whole flower chart — one for nearly every year you've been at this — which makes me exceptionally happy.

One little caveat before you panic-order a bouquet: unlike the traditional anniversary gift list, there isn't actually one universally agreed-upon flower list. You'll find some variation depending on where you look, particularly in those early years. Some lists give year three to sunflowers and others to fuchsia; year eleven is tulips in one book and morning glories in another. The most commonly used anniversary flowers, though, are consistent enough: carnations for the first anniversary, daisies for the fifth, daffodils for the tenth, roses for the fifteenth, irises for the twenty-fifth and yellow roses with violets for the fiftieth. The funny thing (to me, anyway) is that most of those flowers aren't what your person actually wants — and I've got more than 15 years of anniversary orders to back me up on that.

So after reading through the traditional anniversary flower list, and scratching my head a bit, I thought I'd make my own — based partly on more than 15 years of doing this, and partly on what I've watched our customers actually reach for. Case in point: three of our five best-selling anniversary bouquets over the past year were peony bouquets. People know what they want, and what they want is peonies. Peonies aren't a year-round flower, though. So if you want peonies on every anniversary, you'd have to plan your wedding around the peony harvest — which is completely unreasonable advice, and also exactly what I would do.

I gave myself one rule while I was building it: every flower on my list has to be able to carry a bouquet by itself. No filler, no supporting cast, no "and a few stems of something to round it out." If it's going to be your anniversary flower, it should be able to walk into the room alone and have the room notice. That rule knocked out a few of the traditional picks immediately, and it's why some of my swaps look like upgrades of the tradition rather than replacements of it. Same color, same story, better flower.

Xx, Christina

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