From Courtship To A Committed Relationship - Your Roadmap To What He's Thinking Each Step Of The Way

		Featured Expert: Jason Stedman

If men are so simple... Then why does moving into a relationship with a man feel so impossible? If you've dated a man for weeks or months and gotten physically and emotionally close with him... But he never talked about your relationship and he kept a certain "distance" from you that you could tell meant he wasn't thinking about a bigger COMMITMENT... Then you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Becoming EXCLUSIVE is just 1 of the 15 critical "moments" you MUST know how to handle with a man if you want to give your relationship a chance to "go the distance." To learn how to handle all 15 "make or break" moments with men, check out my video program where I go into detail about what they are and how you can be prepared for when they come:

Did you know that becoming exclusive with a man is just 1 of a few important steps in building a truly loving, committed relationship?

It is.

What's more... If you're dating a guy and you haven't talked about being exclusive or not -- did you know that you need to assume that what you have is NOT exclusive?

This is true for men.

And until you understand WHY men are this way, and what it means about how to talk with your man... odds are you'll make some of the big mistakes trying to move into a committed relationship, and he'll pull away.

Don't let that happen - when finding out and using what works (and is more fun for you) can be easy. Here's the thing...

I want to share something with you that has the power to change the way you look at relationships and help you magnetically attract the man you're just "dating" to where he will be the one asking you for more in your relationship.

I'll start by sharing this...

Whether or not you are fully conscious of it or have recognized it yet... there are 3 main STAGES to building a real and lasting relationship.

Well, it's time you found out what they are:

Stage #1: COURTSHIP

You meet a man and you both connect and are attracted to each other.

While you talk to get to know each other, you don't actually talk directly about all the things you really want, think and feel about each other.

In fact, more of what is happening is dictated by Non-Verbal Communication than it is by actual verbal communication.

In this stage, it's determined which of 2 "Roles" you will take on as a woman.

In one role you become the CONVINCER. You are the one subtly making sure you spend time together, making sure plans come together... and pursuing HIM in one way or another.

It can also happen that you don't become the Convincer, but instead take on the role of the RESISTOR.

The Resistor resists largely in part simply BECAUSE the other person is playing the role of the Convincer.

When one person starts to "Convince," the natural human response is to begin to Resist.

Here's why this happens... We have lots of conscious and unconscious social and emotional rules and "roles" that are wired up inside us from birth.

When you meet someone, whether you're conscious of it or not, both of you take on roles that relate to each other.

A great example is the Leader/Follower roles.

Next time you're in a group setting, whether at work or at a social event, I want you to look for and notice that a Leader always develops in a group.

The Leader can lead very subtly, but they dictate the way other people talk and behave -- including how serious or not serious others are.

When a Leader emerges, there's a silent and unspoken non-verbal process that takes place where all the others in the group become Followers.

Humans don't have to try and figure out these roles and discuss or decide who will be the Leader, and if and when others will Follow.

It just happens in a few split seconds on a very subtle unconscious level. Well, to connect the dots for you... The same kind of thing happens between you and a man.

And it happens without either of you even consciously discussing or deciding upon the Roles you're going to play.

One of the most powerful things you can do in your life and in your relationships is to become more CONSCIOUS and aware of what Roles you are playing...

And how those are affecting you, your life, and your relationships.

When you become conscious and you start to CHOOSE the roles you want to play -- suddenly you have a lot of personal and creative power. Especially in your love life.

In the Courtship phase, being aware of what roles can play out, and how to attract a man so that he PURSUES YOU, is the thing that really spells success or failure.

If a man enjoys the role he gets to play with you, and he grows more physically and emotionally attracted to you the more he gets to know you... Your relationship will move to the next stage.

Stage #2: THE UNCOMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

Did you know that before you have a committed and exclusive relationship with a man that you will have to spend time with him in an Uncommitted Relationship?

Most women try to ignore this stage and pretend it doesn't existing because it makes them uncomfortable, and they don't know how to navigate it.

But it's a reality when you date a man... Ignore it at your own peril.

To help you understand this stage, this is that "in-between" stage... where you'll be more curious, and maybe even most "triggered" by how a man is acting and what it all means.

This stage is also where all the opportunity lies in creating the early foundation for a wildly romantic and open and honest relationship...

Or...

For setting your relationship up to fail and having the wheels come off so your relationship does nowhere.

There's 1 single all-important question I ask women as it relates to this stage and setting up the right foundation to move into a loving committed relationship. The question is...

"How will you handle it when you feel at your most VULNERABLE with a man?"... when you're feeling uncertain where things are headed, and you're not sure if you can really trust him yet.

If something happens that hurts your feelings and makes you feel unappreciated and it's time for you to communicate... HOW will you respond? With love or pain and anger? Will you withdraw from him to a safer place and shut him out?

I hope that what you're noticing here is that YOU will get signs about what kind of roles you'll take on, and you'll be asked to show up as a good partner long before you actually have a "Committed Relationship."

How you are with the man you're with through this and how you respond has EVERYTHING to do with whether a man will choose to want to love and commit himself to you, or not.

Stage #3: THE COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

I want you to take a second and realize something...

Now that I've shown you the first 2 stages on the way to a fully committed relationship, you already know a lot more about what a committed relationship actually is.

A committed relationship is a relationship of CHOICE, not of obligation.

You and a man have met and you've been through your "courtship" where you kind of felt your way around in the dark starting to get to know each other.

You sent and received a lot of non-verbal cues which told you a lot about each other, and you either conscious or unconsciously took on a kind of subtle Role.

Then you started to grow even closer and explore the space of being more close and intimate. However... you still weren't "together" and so you were actually in what I call an Uncommitted Relationship.

Knowing that there is such a thing as an Uncommitted Relationship is going to change the way you look at moving towards and creating a Committed Relationship.

(And help you create the right relationship at the same time -- not just any relationship.)

You should also know that there is a RIGHT way to move into a committed relationship with a man... And there are lots of WRONG ways.

How and why a man commits is one of the single best determinants of whether a relationship will last and be loving over the long run, or not.

If you don't know how to both move into an Exclusive space with a man (to set the stage for a more committed relationship)...and you don't know how to actually talk through the making of a real and true COMMITMENT with a man... often times things will backfire and he'll withdraw.

Don't let a few things you don't know about right now keep you from creating what you want, and repeating some of the mistakes you might have made in the past.

In my program "Mastering 'Make or Break Moments' With Men" I show you:

1. Exactly what to know, do and say to move into an EXCLUSIVE situation with a man.
   That way he's not dating other women and you can focus on moving towards and creating the right relationship for you, in a safe and secure way.
2. Exactly how to have "the talk" and move into the Committed Relationship.
   Too many women approach having the talk from the wrong place, and too many men respond in immature ways and get scared off because of this.
   When you know where to START the conversation from, it's easy. And I show you in my program.
3. What to do if he says he's "not ready"
   Don't let this de-rail you. It's a common thing men go through, and there's a clear way to address it and move past it, without you having to try and Convince him or wait it out while he gets himself together.

All this is in my "Mastering 'Make or Break Moments' with Men" program... and you can start watching it online in minutes, completely risk-free.

All you need to do is go here and get started:

I want you to find the man you deserve, and create the kind of relationship that is worth having.

Let me take the stress and guess work out of it, and make the process of moving into a relationship become the amazing opening and growth process it should be for you.

Go here now to get my best tips on exactly how to handle each critical situation that will come up with a man:

I'll talk to you again soon.

With Love & Gratitude,

Jason