i deserve to make mistakes, je mérite de faire des erreurs

“all mistakes teach us something, so there are, in reality, no mistakes; mistakes are a fact of life: It is the response to the error that counts”

nikki giovanni

dear muse,

to be human is to be imperfect

we all make mistakes

how we perceive those mistakes is a choice

are your mistakes failures?

or are they opportunities for growth, for humility, or for greater compassion?

you are not meant to be flawless

when we give ourselves permission to stumble, we open the door to healing

we learn

we release shame

we move forward—wiser and stronger

enjoy this week's love letter...

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our meditation

let's begin with a grounding practice to quiet self-criticism and welcome grace into the present moment

self-forgiveness is the start of creating space for new

we must forgive ourselves so that we can continue to move forward with a pure and loving heart not only for others but for ourselves as well

join bird in this meditation of releasing the difficult memories of our younger selves to allow ourselves to continue working towards our best version

self-forgiveness affirmations: a guided meditation for forgiveness

from yoga with bird

our podcast or playlist

self forgiveness is actually a daily practice cause when that second embarrassment for a mistake your former self made kicks in - whew - sometimes you just want to small up yourself

it’s ok, forgiveness is in abundance

we go again

candice brathwaite instagram

our journal prompt

next, your journal prompt

“what mistake am I still holding against myself, and how can I begin to release it?”

let's explore letting go

ruminating about your past mistakes won’t let you grow, evolve, and, most importantly, live in the present

it’ll only keep you stuck in the past, where you don’t exist anymore, because the only thing you have is the present moment

there’s nothing you can do about the past

so, let’s help you get unstuck from that

letting go: how to forgive yourself for your mistakes

by aimlief

our book selection

this book follows two childhood best friends, jude and lauren, who find themselves living together in their late twenties after their carefully planned lives completely fall apart

jude is an instagram influencer whose real life is financially broke, and lauren is a single mom fighting an unexpected custody battle

it is a funny, raw, and deeply relatable story about what happens when you stop pretending to be perfect and finally start embracing your own beautiful disasters

if you have been putting too much pressure on yourself lately, this read is the perfect escape

mom jeans and other mistakes

by alexa martin

finally, our film selection

if you have ever felt crushed by the weight of the choices you didn’t make, you are not alone

it is easy to look at our lives and get caught up in the "what ifs"

what if I took that other job? what if I moved to that other city? what if I hadn't made that massive mistake? in a chaotic world that demands perfection, it is easy to view our errors as dead ends

but what if our mistakes aren’t failures? what if they are simply proof that we are actively participating in our own stories?

when we give ourselves permission to mess up, we break free from the paralyzing fear of doing the wrong thing

this week, try to look at your missteps with a bit of grace (and maybe a sense of humor)

enjoy!

everything everywhere all at once

starring michelle yeoh, stephanie hsu, and jamie lee curtis; directed by daniel kwan and daniel scheinert

your ritual

perfection is a myth, but compassion? that’s real

mistakes don’t make you less worthy, they make you human

this self-love and self-care ritual is designed to soften your inner voice, ease the grip of guilt, and remind you: you deserve grace

soft spaces wrap yourself in softness—your favorite oversized sweater, a silk robe from je mérite collection, or your coziest blanket; surround yourself with things that comfort, not criticize

compassion playlist create a playlist that feels like a hug; ddd songs that remind you that you are whole, flaws and all

love letter to little you write a short note to your younger self; tell them it’s okay to mess up; tell them what you needed to hear then; then tell yourself: you are safe to be imperfect

you are doing your best—and that is enough
because your worth is never up for debate

in closing

you are not your missteps

you are your courage

you are your comeback

you deserve patience

you deserve a soft place to land

as always, affirmations from pervious weeks are available here

you'll be hearing more from me soon

promise

tamara charese

as always, affirmations from previous weeks are available here