66 trips around the sun 🌞 and I'm just getting started
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She Is Still
Becoming
66 trips around the sun. And every single one has been worth it.
66 Trips Around the Sun.
All of Them Gemini.
The twins. The storyteller. The seductress. The sage. I contain multitudes — and I always have.
Always learning, always asking, always finding a new corner of the world — and herself — to explore.
She walks into a room and the energy shifts. Always has. Always will.
Spain, anyone? She doesn't just survive change — she runs toward it in heels.
She says the thing everyone else is thinking. Beautifully. Unapologetically.
Goddess and teacher. Sensual and wise. Playful and profound. She is all of it, all at once.
Geminis don't age the way others do. They just become more themselves. Year after glorious year.
The Woman Who
Finally Has a Name
I want to tell you something I wish someone had told me sooner: the version of yourself you've been working toward your entire life? She shows up late. Fashionably, unapologetically, magnificently late.
I found her in my early 50s. I didn't discover something new — I finally had a name for what I had always been. A Sex Goddess. A holistic sex educator. A woman who moves through the world with the full knowledge that her desire is not a problem to be managed, but a gift to be honored. And now, stepping fully into my 60s, coaching in ethical non-monogamy, living in Spain with my dog, collecting extraordinary evenings with extraordinary men from Belgium, Britain, Italy, Slovenia, Czech Republic, Holland, Spain, Colombia, Argentina, across the whole beautiful continent of Africa — I can tell you with complete certainty: this is the life.
This newsletter is my birthday letter to myself. And maybe, if it lands the way I hope, it will be a love letter to you too.
The Lies We Were Sold
About Aging & Desire
Here is what the marketing industry decided you should believe: that sometime around 50, your body begins to betray you. That dryness is inevitable. That desire fades. That you should gracefully step aside and let the younger women have their moment.
None of it is true.
Younger women are "drying up" — not from age, but from stress, disconnection, and a culture that treats their pleasure as secondary. Older women believe they are drying up because someone with a product to sell told them that's what happens after 50. It doesn't have to. There are so many natural, holistic ways to keep your juices flowing — literally and figuratively — and that is exactly what I teach.
Think of it this way: if you had a Rolls-Royce in the garage, you would still need to go out and start the engine every now and then to keep the motor running. Your body is that Rolls-Royce. Drive it. Regularly.
Sex Is
Medicine
More sex — not less. That is the prescription. Sexual pleasure, whether with a partner, partners, or yourself, is genuinely rejuvenating. It releases, restores, and reconnects you to your own aliveness.
The nude beach? Go. Vitamin D is essential — and I mean that medically and spiritually. Something extraordinary happens when you let your skin meet sunlight in another country. Preferably one with a warm Mediterranean breeze and men who think your silver and your curves are exactly what they came to see.
I have had the best dates of my life — the best conversations, the most genuine curiosity, the most delicious attention — from men 5, 10, 15, and 20 years younger than me. Not because I sought it. Because I simply showed up as myself, and that was enough. More than enough.
Why More Is
Always More
Post-Menopausal Freedom
No pregnancy. No cycle to work around. No apologies. Just your body, your desire, and the full presence that comes from having nothing to prove and everything to enjoy.
Younger Men Are a Gift
You don't need to keep them. You don't need to mother them. You simply enjoy them — their energy, their enthusiasm, their genuine admiration for a woman who knows exactly who she is.
Your Body Is Not Broken
Dryness is not destiny. Hormonal shifts respond to holistic care — nutrition, movement, connection, and yes, regular pleasure. The body rewards attention. Give it some.
Solo Pleasure Counts
If the garage is empty tonight, start the engine anyway. Self-pleasure is not a consolation prize. It is maintenance. It is devotion. It is how you stay in relationship with yourself.
More Partners, More Joy
One partner who truly sees you is extraordinary. Two? Three? The capacity for love and pleasure does not divide — it multiplies. Ethical non-monogamy is not a compromise. For some of us, it is simply the truth of how we love.
What Spain
Taught Me
When I moved to Spain, I thought I was simply changing geography. I was wrong. I was changing everything.
The men I met — across Spain, across Europe, across evenings that turned into early mornings — did not treat my age as a limitation. They treated my presence as an invitation. There is something extraordinary about being seen clearly by someone from a different culture, someone who has no script for who a woman like me is supposed to be. They simply responded to who I actually am.
I am a Sex Goddess. I am a holistic sex educator. I am an ENM coach. I am a woman in her 60s who dates across continents and collects extraordinary moments the way other people collect art. And every single year, I become more of all of that — not less.
That is what this birthday is about. Not marking time. Marking expansion.
Happy birthday to me. And to every woman reading this who is still becoming — keep going. The best version of you is not behind you. She is right here, right now, learning your name.
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